What is Love

 

 What is love?

What you refer to as love is a certain moment of pleasantness. If love is true, it will happen without an objective. Every moment of your life you must know that pleasantness, you must constantly fall in love with everything and nothing. 

When people fall in love 

If I fell in love with three people, but only married one. How do I know if I found my TRUE LOVE? 

It all depends. What is your idea of love, first of all? If you fell in love with one woman, one bird, one ant, one tree and something, then your love is not driven by anything, you are just falling in love. 

What is love according to people 

If continuously you are falling in love with women, that means your love is driven by your hormones, you better understand that. So, what is driven by something, do you want to label it as love? It is fine; I'm not saying, there is no love at all. There is, but what is true and what is not true is not something that you decide because of this, you know because of what happened or what did not happen, it is the question of how you felt. So, what do you want to do 

What does the love end up with 

Whether it ended up in marriage, then you realised it was not love, or it did not end that way, and you thought it was true love which was never realised, it's up to you, how you want to handle it.

Essentially, what love means is 

If your physical body becomes very pleasant, generally we call this health and pleasure. If your mind becomes very pleasant, we call this peace and joy. If your emotions become very pleasant, we call this love and compassion. If your life energies become very pleasant, we call this blissfulness and ecstasy. So, what you are referring to as love is a certain moment of pleasantness.

Now, you believe somebody caused it in you 

Maybe somebody did trigger it in you

If love is true, it will happen without an objective.If it's genuine, true love, what it means is, you have made your emotions very pleasant. Whether the man is here or a woman is here or a tree is here, an ant is here, or an elephant is here, is not the point, you just made your emotions pleasant. Everything that you behold, you have a certain pleasantness towards it. That is love.

One must understand the limitations of love

If it ends up in a permanent bond in the form of marriage or whatever, then you think it's successful. If it did not, do you think it's a failure?  It need not be so. I'm in love with all the women in the world, and men also, and the ants also and the very soil that I walk upon, and the very tree under which we are sitting right now. Whatever you behold, to have a pleasant emotion towards that, is love. And love is not about somebody, it's about your being pleasant-truly pleasant.

Is this right-wrong, that is not the thing 

It is an intelligent way to exist. There is sufficient unpleasantness in the world, however carefully you walk, you will step into something or the other. When this is so, you don't have to manufacture your unpleasantness within you. Only three times in your life if you loved, I think you are a misfortune because the rest of the time you have not known that pleasantness within you. 

Every moment of your life, you must know that pleasantness, you must constantly fall in love with everything and nothing.  

Women also included, what's the problem with them?

Because they cannot tie a bond with them. Choose one, one is convenient.

One is convenient and above all, the reason why you tie a bond with someone is, at least with one person in your whole life, you want somebody with whom there is no holds barred.

What happens if you approach a new person in your life 

 If you approach a new person, there is always a little bit of, you know, there is a little bit of war and games happening. War games are happening with a new person. With one person you want to relax, where you don't have to play games. At least with one person, you want to be in total relaxation, that's the idea. Why do you want at least one person, that is, still you have not reached a point where you are simply relaxed by yourself, with life itself. Because you are unable to relax with the whole manifestation of life around you, with a million manifestations of life around you. At least with one person, you want to find that. That's the idea of finding a bond or building a bond with that.  

Value relaxing with one person
 

So, people who look beyond that are people who don't value relaxing with one person because now they can relax with just about anything. They are at ease with everything in existence. Now they don't find the need to make a bond where only in one place, some relaxation happens. Rest of the place you are war-like, always trying to protect yourself. One place where you can keep your defence mechanism down, something beautiful can happen within you when the need to protect yourself is gone. Hence, the idea of forming a unit of family and the larger identities of community, nation and whatever else is simply to find a space where you can keep your defence mechanism down and just be inx a certain sense of ease because only in that ease the other possibility will find expression; and otherwise you will be just like an animal, constantly trying to survive - preserve yourself.

Conclusion 

 Love is seen as a possibility to go beyond that instinct of self-preservation, where you are not trying to preserve yourself, you are trying to offer yourself to something or somebody. For that, you don't need a person, you can just do it simply with life. 

Then you will realise the magic of falling in love