Youth And Marital Issues

 

                              

      What is marriage 

Marriage is a lifelong commitment and you cannot leave it to chance. Hence choosing the right life partner is the key to success and happiness 

             
                      What is a love marriage 

A love marriage is one which is driven solely by the couple, with or without consent of their parents.

                           What is today's youths’ perception of love

Today’s generation is all about being COOL, popular, getting peoples' attention, Bragging, telling people things they don’t do or don’t have but they do for the sake of being cool.

And love is the same for them.

When such people end up in their wedding with the love of their lives, it leads to disastrous consequences.

 What happened in arranged marriage if both husband and wife had different mindsets in older times?

In older times, in arranged marriages, even if the husband and wife had different mindsets, somehow even though they fought with each other, they in their minds accepted and changed themselves. Hence slowly they both would start understanding each other . If they fought but not with that aggression, they could patch up fast. They started giving importance and respect to each other's families, that is what is needed the most. Initially it was not like that, but now the scenario has completely changed.

                   1). Husband- wife’s relationship is an institution

All relationships are an institution, especially a husband - wife’s relationship, it is purest and pious of all relationships. It needs investment in terms of feelings and emotions. 

One must learn how to build emotional intimacy with one’s partner. 

Emotional intimacy is the foundation of any solid relationship. Here are a few things you can do to improve the connection you have with your partner. When we discuss intimacy in a romantic partnership, what usually comes to mind are physical acts, such as holding hands, cuddling, kissing and even intercourse. While physical intimacy is integral in any romantic partnership — it’s one of the primary factors that sets it apart from any other type of relationship — fostering emotional intimacy is just as, if not more, important. But people who get married at early stages of their lives seldom realise this. They believe more in physicality rather than emotional bonding. 

                   2) Love marriage v/s Arranged marriage

In love marriage, it begins with loving, exploring and then doubting whereas in arranged marriages, it generally starts with doubts and verifying the things exploring and then love flourishes. 

Love marriage:- The partners are fully responsible to make their life decisions and the stand to take during conflicts. Hence they are not in a position to blame others for any losses or gains 

Arranged marriage: The families of the marrying couple come together into a new relationship. Hence if circumstances are not favourable, they have full support of the elders and the ones who got them married.

They either try to reconcile them, but if things seems to worsen, they support the couple at having a divorce 

Love marriage and arranged marriage are two routes to getting married. In love marriage, you get to marry a person you fall in love with.  In an arranged marriage, you search through several sources to select the perfect match who will meet your expectations and preferences. The debate comparing love marriage and arranged marriage is an age-old one. But the question that arises is:  Is it feasible for the youngsters to go for love marriage at such an age where their focus should be building their own career with perfection?

                    The responsibility of making choices

Love marriage:-The partners are fully responsible to make their life decisions and the stand to take during conflicts. Hence they are not in a position to blame others for any losses or gains.

Arranged marriage:-The families of the marrying couple come together into a new relationship. The elders in the family take an active part in making some decisions at least till the time they are comfortably settled with each other.

    3) Generally it is difficult to differentiate if it is infatuation or love 

People at a tender age, fall in relationships like love and then go for love marriages. They are unaware about the responsibilities of a marital couple and their responsibilities towards their families, hence at times love marriages end miserably and also result in searching love again leading to extramarital relations. Some weak hearted people go for repeated attempts of suicides and some end up giving up their lives, or even taking the lives of their partners. 

Arranged marriage generally results when both partners have control of such a surge of feelings. They don’t expect anything from each other in the earlier stages of their wedding and, as expectation is the root cause of all misery, there are fewer clashes

4) Love marriage results in comparing 

Love marriage results in comparing pre-marriage scenarios with post marriage scenarios and result in frustration and blame game  whereas arranged marriage needs patience and finding love

                                             Conclusion

Today’s youth should concentrate on one’s study and achieving degrees rather than love and love marriages. When it’s the right time for them and when their thought process has developed in handling the responsibilities of a marriage, whether it is arranged or love, they should definitely go for it.