Is Silence The Symbol Of Being Weak

Do people see silence as your weakness

 Each human being is born endowed with certain traits, none of which are inherently positive or negative until labelled by someone else. Being a quiet person is simply a sign you are a quiet person. If you feel happy and good about yourself, then how can it be a sign of weakness? When we are told who we are and what each of our characteristics mean, then the real story is never about you, but speaks volumes about the person making the judgement.

           What should be done when there’s a conflict between two people

A conflict cannot survive without your participation. When we listen to ‘Conflict’, we always have two people in our mind. 

The conflict between two people needs to be finished. There are two people involved on both sides of the conflict, if one keeps quiet, the conflict ends there itself. 

                           A conflict survives without your participation 

We often feel that everything is fine from my side, until and unless the other person admits his mistake, the dispute will not be resolved. When we try to convince people, they say that they don’t mind having this resolved, but let the other person apologise first because he started it first.  Actually it’s not about who seeks forgiveness first.  It’s about who starts changing the energy in your mind and your brain, first.

Often in a conflict, there is nothing that happens outside, we have not spoken anything wrong to anyone, we have not behaved wrongly with anyone. It means there is no conflict that is visibly seen. If you look at it externally, the relationship is perfectly fine. Yet there is a discord. This conflict is about the two souls, sending certain energy to each other.  

The smoothness, harmony, purity, transparency and integrity that should exist in a relationship is not there. There is no visible fight, there is no fight, there has not been any problem. But still the relationship is not as stable as it should have been .            

       I’m not comfortable with that person instead of maintaining silence     

                                            

For some of us, silence hanging in the air is, well, awkward. We’ll say anything to fill the quiet, to keep the conversation going, to cut the tension. But the truth is, moments of silence aren’t necessarily a problem. It gets a bad rap for being boring; in fact, in a relationship—especially a long-term relationship like your marriage—it should be the most comfortable thing in the world.

Lately, I have been observing people in conversations more than I ever have before; and what I have noticed is most people are very uncomfortable with silence.

Whether you are at a restaurant with friends, listening to a lecture or simply having a conversation with a friend, I sense there is an underlying pressure that most people feel to fill the space of silence. You perceive a void and feel responsible for creating some sort of response because the silence makes you squirm in your mind and body.

         What are the Benefits Of Being Silent For A While

People who regularly meditate often do it for thirty minutes to one hour a day. They claim it clears the fog in their mind and creates renewed energy. After doing this exercise, I think it will become increasingly clear to you that it takes discipline to sit still in silence. Meditation does not mean you have to sit with your legs crossed in a lotus position with your palms upright resting on your knees with a rigid posture. That simply did not work for me no matter how hard I tried. However, once I gave myself permission to open up my mind to other possibilities for accessing my silence, I'm therefore the winner.,

 

“Silence is a source of great strength.” – Lao Tzu

Silence is good for overall physical health and well-being

Besides giving our ears a break, silence has been shown to offer significant health advantages that boost overall well-being. From a physiological standpoint, silence helps:

•Lower blood pressure, which can help prevent heart attack.

•Boost the body’s immune system.

•Decrease stress by lowering blood cortisol level

•Promote good hormone regulation and the interaction of bodily hormone-related systems.

•Prevent plaque formation in arteries.

                                          Conclusion

We need to maintain silence in some cases which are good and beneficial for us as I have mentioned above.  

But sometimes we need to cry our hearts out and let people know our circumstances. If it was feasible to remain mum in all situations, then we would have been born mute.