No one can love you the way you can love yourself

 

Look at me, I’m my worst enemy. Beat myself up now, every chance I see. Nice to everyone, when it comes to me. Cut myself up with brutal honesty.  How can you love someone, if you don’t love yourself? Every twist and turn that a life takes like a boat in the sea. When the wave breaks, every night is the dawn of a new day. You don’t lose, if you learn from your mistakes. Hence, If you don’t LOVE YOURSELF, you can’t love anyone else

                                What is means to love yourself

Before a person is able to practice it, first we need to understand what it means to love yourself. 

Self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth. Self-love means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others.

Loving yourself means having a high regard for your own well-being and happiness. Moreover it means not settling for less than you deserve.

Loving yourself can mean something different for each person because we all have many different ways to take care of ourselves. Figuring out what self-love looks like for you as an individual is an important part of your mental health.

                    What does loving yourself mean to you?

                            For beginners it can mean         

•Talking to and about yourself with love

•Prioritising yourself

•Giving yourself a break from self-judgement

•Trusting yourself

•Being true to yourself

•Being nice to yourself

•Setting healthy boundaries

•Forgiving yourself when you aren’t being true or nice to yourself

                         How and why tolove yourselves 

When you hold yourself in high esteem, you're more likely to choose things that nurture your well-being and serve you well.

                         Ways to practice to love ourselves include:-

• Becoming mindful. People who love themselves, tend to know what they think, feel, and want.

•Taking actions based on need rather than want. By staying focused on what you need, you turn away from automatic behaviour patterns that get you into trouble, keep you stuck in the past, and lessen loving yourself

• Practising good self-care. You will love yourself more when you take better care of your basic needs. People high in self-love nourish themselves daily through healthy activities, like sound nutrition, exercise, proper sleep, intimacy and healthy social interactions

• Making room for healthy habits. Start truly caring for yourself by mirroring that in what you eat, how you exercise, and what you spend time doing. Do stuff, not to “get it done” or because you “have to,” but because you care about you 

At times we expect people to love us or return our favours , but generally that doesn’t happen and we feel we are not lovable . But to be lovable you have to love yourself. 

                       Can you be loved if you don’t love yourself

There is a psychological myth going around that you have to love yourself before someone else can love you. The real truth is that many people learn to love themselves by first being loved by another. If you never had a loving family, it's more difficult to build healthy self-esteem

                       Do you need self love to love someone?

You don't have to love yourself to love someone else. But you should like yourself, because when you like yourself, you will make healthy choices and create a space (build a relationship) that will promote self love. 

                    Can you love someone before you love yourself?

Whether you're single, talking to someone or full-fledged dating, self-care should still be a priority. There's no rule that states you are required to love yourself before getting into a relationship

When you start caring or loving yourself you will not expect from others and be vibrant and confident. 

With this positive personality others get inspired too and love back.

How to love yourself, do the activities you like be it reading, writing, listening to music take out time for yourself somehow.

It is not like being selfish that just think about self but empowering self so the live that you have felt which is eternal you can give to others, 

                     Conclusion 

Finally, to practice self-love, start by being kind, patient, gentle and compassionate to yourself, the way you would with someone else that you care about. Self love is the best love, if one can love oneself, he can love each and everything in this world. Moreover he doesn't need anyone to compliment him.