What should you look in a life partner

                            What is marriage and how important is marriage  

The institution of marriage is about bringing a certain sanctity to the simple basic needs that every human being has, there are physical needs as everyone seeks physical intimacy, there are psychological needs, there are economical needs, emotional needs,social needs, and a variety of needs.To fulfil all these things, we set up an institution called marriage, where all this can be conducted in a sensible manner

                                  What is love and what is marriage 

When you say love, your experience of love means, you feel a certain sweetness of emotion within yourself, either you look at this person, or this person, or this person, we don’t know who stimulates this into you. We came up with something called marriage, to fulfil the various kinds of needs of yours in a dignified manner, we came up with something called marriage, so that it is fulfilled  within a framework. Your desires don’t run wild and disturb everyone in the society, so that it can be conducted in a sensible manner.  

                                                             

                 Is it true that, “Marriages are made in heaven, but celebrated on earth"

Now you have raised this to heaven, because someone has told you that, ”Marriages are made in heaven”. Only the unmarried ones think so. Please don’t try to raise it to heaven, it doesn’t happen in heaven. 

                          What makes a marriage work 

Two people, if they are sensible enough. No else can match those two people. Priests have tried, Gods have tried, Ghosts and Goblins have tried. It’s not worked, at all.

Those sensible people, they can manage.if they understood the limitations and possibilities of the arrangements, they can conduct it sensibly.

Once a question was asked to Gautam, the Buddha, “Is it easier to walk alone or in company. Buddha said, ”It’s better to walk alone, than with a fool”.

                             What should you seek in your life partner 

People will tell you exactly who they are, it is up to you to listen. If someone says they are usually in a bad mood, or don't know how to be monogamous or what they are saying. Don’t assume you can change them. 

Look for someone who is kind and loving. If you are really lucky, your partner will also have a family that taught him or her how to be that way. Having in laws, who treat you like a member of the family, will make your life much nicer. Make sure the person you are seeing doesn’t smoke, even if you do, if he or she is a non-smoker it may get you to stop, think of it this way, you are choosing happiness or death 

                                What else you should look in your life partner

Find someone you can talk to, as time passes, this quality is more important than looks, money or position. If you can’t talk to your partner, or cry on his/her shoulder, it is not going to be a good man. Spiritual and political differences can also be difficult to deal with as we age. Our feelings in this area tend to be intense, make sure that you have enough differences, that if you are unable to go out, you can still entertain each other. If someone is just like you, it might get little boring as times goes by

                               Looks are always deceptive

If you know the person, like something deeper, looks don't matter. If you don't know the person, looks, how they dress, how they speak, their social skills and a lot of such outward things matter because, first impressions matter in the event there aren't more impressions to judge people by.

                            

                      “Looks don’t matter” or Looks are all that matter

It obviously depends on the situation and most situations are such that you don't necessarily get a second chance.Stop believing in generalised nonsense and engage with people.

You find some great looking, and others find others great looking. It’s very important to choose someone that you’re compatible with because if you don’t, it will be equivalent to eating a great looking dish which tastes very average every single day of your life. After a point, you don’t really care how your dish looks, if it tastes really bad. That’s what incompatibility tastes like.

                                                   Conclusion

Sure, attraction is important but looking at someone and getting blown away by their looks is not the only approach. Sometimes you can get to know them, spend time with them, and then realise that you’re attracted to them.