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How do you decide on a goal for your life and develop a personality to achieve it? 

Your dreams, goals and aspirations, it’s good that you spend a little more time on it. And see, will this really mean something to you, even after 25 years, 50 years, if you’re  on your deathbed, will it still mean something to you? You must look at it. Whatever you are aspiring for, whatever you are dreaming of, whatever goals you have set, will it really mean something because most of these goals are traps. Theyare just traps.You get in, it’s only one way street, you can’t turn back. Please look at this because…….. Many of them are older than you. You ask them what they dreamed of at 18, they are fortunate it didn’t come true, some will say.

   If everything you desired and dreamed came true in your life, could you live with it 

Fortunately, many of those things got filtered and never came true. It will be very good, if anybody of your age, if they want to decide and fix the goals of their life. It will be very good if they take a break from all influences that’s around them, social influences, family influences, other influences withdraw somewhere, maybe  an ashram, sit down, meditate, bring yourself to a certain level of clarity and joy.

                           When is the time to set your goals                       

When you are very happy and clear, you must decide what goals you aspire to achieve in life. Not in desperation you set goals. Desperate goals that you set will mean a lot to you at that moment.Tomorrow morning when you look you don’t know why you’re tangled up with it.

It’s the best that you do it. So, it will be good, if you are fixing your life. It’s best that you do it, when you’re very very peaceful, happy and clear headed. Not influenced by anything around you. Simply by yourself. Sit and decide, what is it that you really want to become in life? 

    What is it that will be of enduring value for you, not for somebody else, for you  

You don’t have to build a personality for that. You strive for that. You must understand what a personality is. The word personality comes from the word persona. Persona means in Latin, a mask, This is a mask that they would use in old theatres. So personality means, you held a mask and mask got stuck on your face. You couldn’t pull it out. That means you have a personality. Personality is something that people are trying to develop because they have no sense of being. Instead of the real thing, you are trying to concretise the fake thing.    

    If you are in touch with your being, why do you want a personality?

It’s not necessary. You can be a different kind of personality

How do you decide on a goal for your life and develop a personality to achieve it? 

Your dreams, goals and aspirations, it’s good that you spend a little more time on it. And see, will this really mean something to you, even after 25 years, 50 years, if you’re  on your deathbed, will it still mean something to you? You must look at it. Whatever you are aspiring for, whatever you are dreaming of, whatever goals you have set, will it really mean something because most of these goals are traps. Theyare just traps.You get in, it’s only one way street, you can’t turn back. Please look at this because…….. Many of them are older than you. You ask them what they dreamed of at 18, they are fortunate it didn’t come true, some will say.

   If everything you desired and dreamed came true in your life, could you live with it 

Fortunately, many of those things got filtered and never came true. It will be very good, if anybody of your age, if they want to decide and fix the goals of their life. It will be very good if they take a break from all influence that’s around them, social influences, family influences, other influences withdraw somewhere, may be  an ashram, sit down, meditate, bring yourself to a certain level of clarity and joy.

                           When is the time to set your goals                       

When you are very happy and clear, you must decide what goals you aspire to achieve in life. Not in desperation you set goals. Desperate goals that you set will mean a lot to you at that moment.Tomorrow morning when you look you don’t know why you’re tangled up with it.

It’s the best that you do it. So, it will be good, if you are fixing your life. It’s best that you do it, when you’re very very peaceful, happy and clear headed. Not influenced by anything around you. Simply by yourself. Sit and decide, what is it that you really want to become in life? 

    What is it that will be of enduring value for you, not for somebody else, for you  

You don’t have to build a personality for that. You strive for that. You must understand what a personality is. The word personality comes from the word persona. Persona means in Latin, a mask, This is a mask that they would use in old theatres. So personality means, you held a mask and mask got stuck on your face. You couldn’t pull it out. That means you have a personality. Personality is something that people are trying to develop because they have no sense of being. Instead of the real thing, you are trying to concretise the fake thing.    

    If you are in touch with your being, why do you want a personality?

It’s not necessary. You can be a different kind of personality in different places. If something is true, even if you forget it, it’s there. No problem. Your personality is a lie, your being, your existence is the truth.. Anything that’s made up needs constant support from you, isn’t  it?  See, suppose you tell a lie, it needs constant support to keep it up, but if something is true, you can even forget it, but it’s still there. Your personality is a lie, your being , your existence is the truth.

What you make up, for the sake of society, to function in society, you need a certain kind of make up. You must be able to keep it down. If you go in the bed fully made up,then something is wrong with you.

                                                Coming to the facts 

Here are a few strategies that could help you become more deliberate about your choices and increase your decision-making prowess:

• Treat Decisions Differently. “Choose your life's mate carefully. ... 

• Practise Making Good Choices. ... 

• Make “Bad” Decisions Work For    You. ... 

• Choose Between Two Good Choices. ... 

• No “Bad” Decisions.

                              Why do you regret your decision

Counterfactual thinking drives regret. This means that the easier it is to imagine a different, better outcome for a situation, the more likely we are to regret that decision. Regret is most intense when you feel you've come close to a major success and missed the opportunity because of poor planning or inaction.

                    How do you make a critical life decision?

Four Fundamentals That Should Govern Our Decision Making

• See the Big Picture. (Try to perceive all viewpoints.) ... 

• Take the High Road. (Work to believe the best about others.) ... 

• Think Long Term. (Ponder the long-term impact of decisions.) ... 

•Choose Win / Win. (Find solutions where everyone sees a benefit.)

                                         Conclusion

If you make a wrong decision in a major decision making process, you can ruin your whole life, whereas if you use a small amount of wisdom, take your decisions in a relaxed manner, after  giving thoughtful insight to your actions, you just cannot improve your own life but of the others, too.