How to Never Get Angry or Bothered by People

 

Q:- While discussing the relationship between volunteerism and willingness, the willingness uplifts your consciousness, whether I'm reporting correctly or understanding it.  In some ways, talking about how could it be a doorway to becoming a bigger person than who you are.

A:- What is being a visionary 

What vision means is:-  that everyone has desires. Desire is an incremental way of enhancing our lives. Today you desire, I must have a home. Tomorrow you desire, I must have this money, the day after tomorrow you desire something else. These are incremental ways of arranging and rearranging our lives which are needed to do a few things. 

When you say, I'm a visionary, what you are saying is that I have a larger desire, which is not about just incremental improvement of my life.

Difference between desire and vision 

Desire is about me, always, Vision is an all-inclusive process 

So, this itself is a phenomenal thing, if people instead of having desires, have a vision. Vision is always all-inclusive. Desire is personal. Desire leads to incremental changes and improvements. Vision can transform the whole situation. 

Talking about willingness 

To be a volunteer, a volunteer means somebody who is doing something willingly, right? There's no other compulsion. There are no financial compulsions. There are no social compulsions. There's no something else. You want to do something willingly when you are a willing participant right now, you are a volunteer. If you are doing something willingly, it is fundamental to your joy.

However, simple, stupid or idiotic activity, it is, 'I am doing something willingly' makes a world of difference. 

        

What is the difference between heaven and hell? 

The difference between heaven and hell is just this, you are doing something willingly, and that's your heaven. You are doing something unwillingly, that's your hell. 

We have already taken on attitudes about what we like and what we don't like. I like this person, I don't like this person. We have already taken on attitudes, what we like and what we don't. This may be two people, two aspects of life, two communities, two nations, two nations, two…….many things. This I will do willingly, this I will do unwillingly. This means I have decided in my mind, that this is good, that is bad. 

When you hear good guys and bad guys 

Once you have this kind of thing, you are going to be disastrous to the planet. It's just a question of time. The moment you decide this is a good person, this is a bad person, you are at fault. There are no good people and bad people. Everyone oscillates between the two. If you create a very pleasant and wonderful atmosphere, everybody behaves wonderfully. If you create an unpleasant atmosphere, a whole lot of people act nasty. There are joyful people and miserable people, but there are no good people and bad people. 

The moment we think we are good, we are entitled to destroy the bad

Oh, we've been destroying a lot of people for a long time, time to stop that. Because human beings have different levels of experience and understanding. Variety of people. Anybody who's not like you is obviously bad.

Is it so? Those who are not like you must be bad people. Because the basis of goodness and what you think is goodness and what you think is goodness is decided by you. No, you have no business doing that. 

Willing means this 

I'm a hundred per cent yes to life. I'm not yes to this one, no to this one. No, I'm just yes and yes to life. If you are a hundred per cent yes to life, you are a volunteer. You have become a willing life. You have become so willing that you have no will of your own. 

Your life shouldn't be about others, it should be about you 

It's about how I am. This is about me.  It doesn't matter how others are, that's their choice. But how I am, is my choice. This is my way. No matter what they do. I'm like this. Because I have not been given that freedom by anybody, someone can freak me out, someone can make me angry, someone can make me happy, someone can make me unhappy. These privileges, I kept to myself. It's time you do that, too.

 If somebody else can decide what can happen within you right now, isn't this the ultimate slavery? If someone else can decide what should happen within you, what happens around you, of course, so many people decide. What happens around us is not a hundred per cent ours, but what happens within me must be my making. Right now, just about anybody can freak anybody because they are not volunteers. They are unwilling.  

What is meant by volunteering  

Volunteering means you have no will of your own. You can do whatever is needed. You know, we are a volunteer organisation, this means all kinds of people…….. Most of them are not qualified for the jobs that they're doing. And you can't fire them, because they're volunteers.  

Conclusion  

People keep complaining daily, "I can't work with this person, she is so horrible, I can't do it”.  See, in this world, this sort of people who exist, like this, like this, like this, this is the kind of people there are. But if you want to work with ideal people, you must go to heaven and today. But if you think that what you're doing is significant, you must learn to work with all these horrible people. If you are in search of ideal people, you won't find any.

There are all kinds of……..mixed bags, but if you are willing, you are not yes and no, yes to one, no to another, you're simply one big yes, and you will find a way.